Things You Don't "Get"

[bobzy]

32 minutes ago, Stevo985 said:

This. It's a really weird strawman argument that everyone looks identical. They don't.

And fashion isn't some sort of taboo. Everyone follows it to a certain extent, one way or another. Not just with clothes.

 

So what if you're wearing something because it looks good and also is the latest trend? Why does that actually matter?

FWIW, I think there’s a difference between fashion (wide) and trends.

Trendiness is for rocket polishers. 

[nick76]

52 minutes ago, mjmooney said:

I just can't bring myself to buy clothes from a charity shop. Charity shops are for books only. 

You dont know what you are missing mate.  I used to be like that up until I was 40, I used to only buy quality clothing for going out in especially when I lived in Sydney. 

I also used to clean out my wardrobes of things I hadnt worn much or at all every couple of years and take to charity shops and then go and buy some new clothes for silly money. 

My mom and sister in law used to love going into charity shops and would always come back with some great stuff for them, then my brother started doing it and the stuff he was getting wasnt off brand stuff but some good stuff, hardly worn. 

I started to have a look myself and really got into it, as @Risso says, you go to a posh area and those charity shops have some top quality stuff, and I know because I used to drop off stuff all the time. 

You dont buy the tat obviously but you can see the really good stuff. 

I always used to think that wearing somebody else's stuff was ermmm....lets just say I was snobbish but then my mom reminded me I used play footy a couple of times a week and the kits were washed and swopped all the time between the lads, then I used to hire kit when I went skiing and then other activities where it wasnt my own kit and others had worn.

I think it's just being selective when you do buy but I've learnt there are some great finds, it also saves a lot of money to spend on other expensive clothes.  You should give it a try.

[Risso]

My daughter came back with what looked like a nearly new Ralph Lauren shirt/blouse the other day. It would porbably have been £80-£90 new, she got it for a fiver.

[bickster]

7 minutes ago, nick76 said:

You dont know what you are missing mate.  I used to be like that up until I was 40, I used to only buy quality clothing for going out in especially when I lived in Sydney. 

I also used to clean out my wardrobes of things I hadnt worn much or at all every couple of years and take to charity shops and then go and buy some new clothes for silly money. 

My mom and sister in law used to love going into charity shops and would always come back with some great stuff for them, then my brother started doing it and the stuff he was getting wasnt off brand stuff but some good stuff, hardly worn. 

I started to have a look myself and really got into it, as @Risso says, you go to a posh area and those charity shops have some top quality stuff, and I know because I used to drop off stuff all the time. 

You dont buy the tat obviously but you can see the really good stuff. 

I always used to think that wearing somebody else's stuff was ermmm....lets just say I was snobbish but then my mom reminded me I used play footy a couple of times a week and the kits were washed and swopped all the time between the lads, then I used to hire kit when I went skiing and then other activities where it wasnt my own kit and others had worn.

I think it's just being selective when you do buy but I've learnt there are some great finds, it also saves a lot of money to spend on other expensive clothes.  You should give it a try.

Where I used to live, I think it was one of the two Barnardo's Charity Shops actually specialised in nearly new branded up market clothes. Never went in but lots of people I know used to go in and buy stuff

[El Zen]

1 hour ago, lapal_fan said:

Sorry to tell you this, but you look like a dickhead wearing it.

Soz lolololol

Could be worse. I could look like you. 

[nick76]

4 minutes ago, Risso said:

My daughter came back with what looked like a nearly new Ralph Lauren shirt/blouse the other day. It would porbably have been £80-£90 new, she got it for a fiver.

Yep not surprised.  Once people get past that taboo line of “charity clothes” which I know many people can’t (I couldn’t until a few years ago) you can find some great deals on top quality stuff that probably has been worn just a few times.  

As I’ve said I’ve saved £165 just on that business coat alone and I’ve got a few other deals, never mind my home office deals of a professional office desk you’d find in executive office for just £33 and a executive chair for £10 (donated to charity from a business closing).

[Stevo985]

31 minutes ago, GlobalVillan said:

No that's not what I'm saying. And grown men in bars with baseball caps is still weird. 

Yeah I've got no problem with that. It was more the assertion that you don't follow fashion and that anyone who does is some sort of sheep

28 minutes ago, GlobalVillan said:

And in any case, if 3 out of 4 people sat in a bar in bowler hats, you'd think they were dressed very similar l. As they would be. And that's the same for baseball caps 

If they were wearing the exact same cap. If they were all wearing different caps then no I wouldn't really.

It's a bit like saying all those guys have tshirts on so they're all dressed the same!

[villa4europe]

1 hour ago, Risso said:

My daughter volunteers in a charity shop, and has had some great finds. Generally the more upmarket the area the higher quality clobber that gets brought in.

Anyway, I love clothes and especially shoe shopping. 

charity shops to me are a bit like tk maxx, no doubt you could find something really worthwhile in there but the lay out and lack of sizes and availability puts me off and half the time i cant be arsed, almost like I'm convinced that it would take me an hour to find something good in there and if i did they wouldn't have my size and obviously no alternatives

[GlobalVillan]

Just now, Stevo985 said:

Yeah I've got no problem with that. It was more the assertion that you don't follow fashion and that anyone who does is some sort of sheep

If they were wearing the exact same cap. If they were all wearing different caps then no I wouldn't really.

It's a bit like saying all those guys have tshirts on so they're all dressed the same!

It's not at all like the t-shirt analogy as a baseball cap is a specific accessory. A t-shirt isn't.

I also didn't say that I didn't follow fashion, I just explained what fashion actually means so actually THAT is a strawman argument on your part.

But anyway, this is a thread about things you don't get. I don't get why grown men wear baseball caps or why anyone wears them backwards and especially in bars or restaurants. That's all.

Time to move on I think...

[Stevo985]

4 minutes ago, GlobalVillan said:

It's not at all like the t-shirt analogy as a baseball cap is a specific accessory. A t-shirt isn't.

I also didn't say that I didn't follow fashion, I just explained what fashion actually means so actually THAT is a strawman argument on your part.

But anyway, this is a thread about things you don't get. I don't get why grown men wear baseball caps or why anyone wears them backwards and especially in bars or restaurants. That's all.

Time to move on I think...

Well you said fashion is wearing what everyone else wears and you just wear what looks good on you.

Which is certainly implying that you don't follow fashion.

Which is cool, I get what you mean, you don't wear what everyone else does. But you still follow some sort of fashion. What YOU think looks good is your fashion sense.

It doesn't make you any better than someone who wears the latest trends because that's what they think looks good.

[Brumstopdogs]

22 minutes ago, El Zen said:

Could be worse. I could look like you. 

[GlobalVillan]

1 minute ago, Stevo985 said:

Well you said fashion is wearing what everyone else wears and you just wear what looks good on you.

Which is certainly implying that you don't follow fashion.

Which is cool, I get what you mean, you don't wear what everyone else does. But you still follow some sort of fashion. What YOU think looks good is your fashion sense.

It doesn't make you any better than someone who wears the latest trends because that's what they think looks good.

It's a thread about things you don't get, not things that you think make you better than other people. That's all.

[lapal_fan]

30 minutes ago, El Zen said:

Could be worse. I could look like you. 

You would be so lucky.

I'm gorgeous

Getting stick off a copper top is a new low..

Edited July 10, 2023 by lapal_fan

[mjmooney]

1 hour ago, villa4europe said:

charity shops to me are a bit like tk maxx, no doubt you could find something really worthwhile in there but the lay out and lack of sizes and availability puts me off and half the time i cant be arsed, almost like I'm convinced that it would take me an hour to find something good in there and if i did they wouldn't have my size and obviously no alternatives

This. Plus (the main reason) I hate buying clothes, full stop. So it wouldn't even occur to me to look at them. 

[Stevo985]

I discovered a good hack for getting trousers/shorts if you don't like trying stuff on.

Put the waistband of the trousers around your neck, almost like you're putting on a necklace. I don't mean put your head in the trousers, I mean sort of have the waistband closed like how you'd hang them up, and then put that round your neck. So you're effectively putting half the circumference around your neck.

It will fit round your neck the same way the trousers will fit around your waist. i.e. if the trousers don't go round your neck that way, they won't fit your waist. If they easily go round then they're too big

I can't swear it's 100% accurate but I tried with all my stuff at home (I was unpacking after moving so it was convenient) and it worked every time

 

Edit: here you go, like this

 

 

 

Edited July 10, 2023 by Stevo985

[chrisp65]

7 minutes ago, Stevo985 said:

I discovered a good hack for getting trousers/shorts if you don't like trying stuff on.

Put the waistband of the trousers around your neck, almost like you're putting on a necklace. I don't mean put your head in the trousers, I mean sort of have the waistband closed like how you'd hang them up, and then put that round your neck. So you're effectively putting half the circumference around your neck.

It will fit round your neck the same way the trousers will fit around your waist. i.e. if the trousers don't go round your neck that way, they won't fit your waist. If they easily go round then they're too big

I can't swear it's 100% accurate but I tried with all my stuff at home (I was unpacking after moving so it was convenient) and it worked every time

 

Edit: here you go, like this

 

 

 

Yes it works, I’ve done something similar but now I’m not allowed within 500 metres of the M&S lingerie department.

 

[nick76]

4 hours ago, villa4europe said:

charity shops to me are a bit like tk maxx, no doubt you could find something really worthwhile in there but the lay out and lack of sizes and availability puts me off and half the time i cant be arsed, almost like I'm convinced that it would take me an hour to find something good in there and if i did they wouldn't have my size and obviously no alternatives

I think you are probably talking about the small charity shops?  The large charity shops that are almost like a superstore put all sizes together and the one I was in recently was also in colour order.  I look for the section with my size and look at them.  Yes, if you look and find something they don’t have alternative sizes but normally I just look for my size and then look at those.

I hate tk maxx by the way.  I do like small charity shops but have brought very little from them.

[foreveryoung]

People who try a pair of trousers on round there necks and think it's cool. 

[blandy]

2 hours ago, Stevo985 said:

I discovered a good hack for getting trousers/shorts if you don't like trying stuff on...Put the waistband of the trousers around your neck...

3 minutes ago, foreveryoung said:

People who try a pair of trousers on round there necks and think it's cool. 

I've considered the two points of view and consider it a tie.

[chrisp65]

1 minute ago, blandy said:

I've considered the two points of view and consider it a tie.

Very good, take a bow.