Yes, agreed lapal fan, and that is why we need organised modern society that is consensual with shared purpose.
In the UK we have a population in broad agreement of most things, we have an organised tax system and an army and police force that are there to serve us. We have organised ourselves to provide clean drinking water. Putting it uber simplistically, that is a chunk of the reason why we got through several wars, the blitz, victorian anarchism etc..
Iraq, Libya, Syria etc.. are not like that, no common purpose and no genuine consensus. They are fakes. So when there is pressure, it cracks.
That is why their army cannot help them and that is why, in the long term, our army stopping today's fighting is not really any sort of long term plan.
When you consider that, and you put yourself in the shoes of a young unemployed male, or a family, or a widowed mother. Would you risk staying, fighting. or would you get in an open boat and hope the Italians or Maltese find you?